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Feeling Helpless?

Q: I feel helpless in the face of the world’s suffering. I don’t know what to do about the pain I see all around me. It’s driving me crazy.  Well, you know, it takes a lot of energy and attention to drive yourself crazy. If you redirect that energy away from “feeling helpless” and bring […]

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How To Keep Your Mind Clear & Creative

If you are like most people, you may often feel as if your mind is tormenting you and there is no escape. Ironically, when the torment is very vivid, our mind is actually dull, lacking in clarity and creativity. Of course we can’t enjoy our mind in such a state and we feel trapped because […]

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Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant! Desire vs. Attachment (Part 1)

Distress, worry . . . irrelevant!? Most people are interested and puzzled by this proposition – some angered! How can I not be worried or  distressed about being unemployed, sick, or because of a significant loss? I find in working with clients that the main causes of confusion about the needlessness of distress relate to 4 […]

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How Not to Double Down on Your Anxiety

Do you ever get an anxious feeling . . .  followed by a fearful thought that something must be going wrong? Then the thought that something is wrong makes you feel more intense anxiety . . .  which makes you believe the fearful thought even more? Maybe you start repeating this thought to yourself, or elaborating […]

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How Your Own Questions can Teach You the Art & Skill of Therapeutic Inquiry

More than anyone else, my Buddhist teachers taught me how to relate to questions and questioning. They taught me the art of inquiry which led to what I now call Therapeutic Inquiry. This kind of inquiry is the most important skill I teach to my clients, as well as to students in the Finding True […]

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Are You Working Hard . . . to Accomplish the Wrong Goals?

Have you ever worked really hard to accomplish a goal and when you did accomplish it you felt a big let down? This kind of disillusionment is very common. Ambitious and dynamic people can have a string of successes, each on as empty as the one before. When this happens it can lead to deep […]

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Ego – The Fearful Sense of Separation

Lately I’ve had a number of people come into my office talking about ego. It got me thinking. All problems arise from this sense of limited fearful separation — what we call ‘ego.’ I started contemplating this daily on my morning walks. I examined my fearful concerns and saw that my problems and suffering were […]

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Cut Through Shyness and Hidden Blocks to Self-Respect

The Buddha said:  “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” (A thought worthy of daily repetition.) In my experience over 23 years practicing Lucid Heart Therapy & Life Coaching, I have found that everyone’s problems have their root in a lack of self love and the obstacle […]

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Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant! Overcoming Victim Mentality

This is Part 4 of a series I’m calling, ‘Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant.’  This series will be especially helpful for helping you to actually enjoy, and deal creatively with, the challenges that being around family can bring mentally, emotionally, and physically. You can also check out the other posts in this series: Part 1, Part 2, and Part […]

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Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant! The Origin of Fearful Thinking

This is the third installment of this series of posts: ‘Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant.’ The 4 main issues that cause us needless distress are: Confusion about Desire vs. Attachment – Part 1 Limited Self-Concepts – Part 2 Not Recognizing the Nature and Origin of Fear-based Thinking –  Part 3 Confusion about Cause and Effect, or Victim Mentality – […]

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