If you are like most people, you may often feel as if your mind is tormenting you and there is no escape. Ironically, when the torment is very vivid, our mind is actually dull, lacking in clarity and creativity. Of course we can’t enjoy our mind in such a state and we feel trapped because […]
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Do you ever find yourself worrying what your partner or spouse might be thinking of you? Is it hard for you to be open and honest because you’re afraid they’ll think you’re stupid, dorky, or worse . . . boring? Maybe you’ve found yourself mentally revising and editing what you wanted to say, so much […]
Distress, worry . . . irrelevant!? Most people are interested and puzzled by this proposition – some angered! How can I not be worried or distressed about being unemployed, sick, or because of a significant loss? I find in working with clients that the main causes of confusion about the needlessness of distress relate to 4 […]
More than anyone else, my Buddhist teachers taught me how to relate to questions and questioning. They taught me the art of inquiry which led to what I now call Therapeutic Inquiry. This kind of inquiry is the most important skill I teach to my clients, as well as to students in the Finding True […]
A big part of the transformational process is challenging negative self talk (mean and nasty internal dialogue) again and again to look at and to cut through the roots and causes of self hatred. I have been struck lately by several clients’ acceptance of negative self talk and judgments – what they describe as self-judgment […]
It is important to recognize our hidden beliefs about our basic nature. What’s the bottom line — do we think we are complete or incomplete? Are we full of inherent value and goodness? Or possibly without much value, flawed, and somehow needing to be improved? If we think we have to create improvement or value in […]
Have you ever worked really hard to accomplish a goal and when you did accomplish it you felt a big let down? This kind of disillusionment is very common. Ambitious and dynamic people can have a string of successes, each on as empty as the one before. When this happens it can lead to deep […]
This is the 2nd post in a series I’m calling, ‘Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant.’ In this series we’re examining the 4 main issues that could be causing you needless distress: Confusion about Desire vs. Attachment Limited Self Concepts Unrecognized Nature of Fear-based Thinking Confusion about Cause and Effect You can also take a […]
“Fearful thinking does not fit with the universal law of cause and effect.” Recently a student asked me to elaborate on what this means and on how the law of cause and effect works.
This is Part One of a series examining the nature of fearful thinking, how we become fervently devoted to it, and how to conquer fear. Using the art and skill of inquiry, mindfulness, and awareness, I have helped many students and clients to do this.