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Why Mindfulness in Relationships Helps You Make Better Choices

A couple came to see me once, and they were very grumpy with each other. They’d had a big fight the previous week, and it was so bad that the woman’s husband had actually packed his bags and was ready to go out the door. I said, “Wow! What was the fight about?” The husband […]

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How Not to Eat Hypnotically – Mindful Eating for Physical and Emotional Health

I’ve often heard people say that we eat mindlessly. This isn’t quite accurate, though. Actually, while we eat, we spend most of our time daydreaming. This daydreaming is a form of hypnosis. Under hypnosis you can become so focused on the contents of your mind that you lose awareness of the external environment. You can […]

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Have Fun with Mindfulness at Work!

My most important insights about applying mindfulness to work are grounded in an experience I had as head of the kitchen during a sesshin at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center in 1971. Since it was a week-long sesshin – all day sitting, every day – you might imagine there was a serene atmosphere about the place. Well, […]

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10 Wrong Ideas That Can Ruin Your Mindfulness Practice

It seems like everybody is practicing mindfulness these days. Mindfulness is taking off! It’s showing up in corporate boardrooms, college classrooms, hospice care, and locker rooms. This is a wonderful development because, practiced correctly, mindfulness holds tremendous benefits for us as individuals, for our family and co-workers, and for our communities. There is some confusion, […]

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What Do Thoughts Think About?

Want to make someone pause? Ask them, “What do thoughts think about?” Ask yourself. Try to think about something that is not a thought — if you can, let me know! Why is this important? Well, most significantly it means you cannot think about yourself! You can only think about thoughts about your IDEA of […]

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Are You Worried About What Other People Think?

If you want to make yourself miserable, here’s the quickest way to do it: get worried about what other people think of you. Just by turning our attention outside, we can begin to imagine that others are judging us harshly. In this way, we create a kind of prison in our own mind. We keep ourselves […]

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How Not To Care What Other People Think

 Have you ever wondered what it takes to worry about what other people think? Do you wish you didn’t care what other people think? Or is this kind of worry so “familiar” that it seems natural . . . a deep habit of mind? Let’s take a look at it. If you are concerned about […]

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