Loss is inevitable and therefore unavoidable. Each of us will eventually lose everyone and everything, including our own bodies. There is a natural emotional response to loss that we call grief, and this is normal and healthy to feel, so much so that researchers recently released a study on what causes the physical symptoms of heartache. This healthy grief inspires us to move forward with a deeper appreciation for the rich gift that is life. Healthy grief also bestows on us a tender heart of compassion for all beings, because our loss makes us vividly aware of their (and our own) fragility.
There is another mental process that is also mistakenly labeled as grief. This kind of grief, however, hardens our hearts and makes us bitter. This is not true grief, and it is not healthy. When we experience such “bitter grief” we suffer unnecessarily.
We create needless pain for ourselves when we replay the memories of our loss again and again, and continue to review these memories with thoughts of hopelessness and despair. Such unhealthy grief is very much akin to the activity of the subconscious mind when it creates Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The force of habit, of thinking in this destructive way, is too powerful for your conscious mind to change. However, with the skillful use of hypnotic trance states, we can eliminate this tendency to produce the needless suffering of bitter grief. This healing shift restores your capacity to feel a healthy sadness for your loss, and at the same time, a joyful gratitude for the ongoing gift of your life.
Using the method I developed, Transpersonal Hypnotherapy/NLP, I frequently work with people seeking support in their loss and deep grief. I do individual and family grief work to offer guidance and relief dealing with issues around hospice care, death and dying. We can work in private sessions in person at my office in Seattle. Transpersonal Hypnotherapy/NLP is just as effective for my clients in the U.S. as well as internationally, when we work together by phone or Skype.
If you’d like to deepen and affirm a sense of mental relaxation, ease and freedom that you can call on — anytime, anywhere – you’ll find these Transpersonal Hypnotherapy/NLP audios extremely helpful and wonderfully rejuvenating. I especially recommend the audios on Stress Release, Clarifying Confusion, and Fearlessness & Compassion.
“It’s Not Just About Dying, It’s About Living”: An Interview with Sogyal Rinpoche, author of The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
Three remarkable books:
Graceful Exits: How Great Beings Die
Death Stories of Hindu, Tibetan Buddhist and Zen Masters
by Sushila Blackman
The Majesty of Your Loving: A Couple’s Journey through Alzheimer’s
by Olivia Hoblitzelle
Mind Beyond Death
by Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche
VIDEO: Talk by Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche on Death & Dying
May we all prosper with enhanced compassion and wisdom!
Jack Elias, CHT is the founder and director of The Institute for Therapeutic Learning in Seattle, Washington. He is the author of Finding True Magic: Transpersonal Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy/NLP, a book and course which blends NLP training modalities with philosophical traditions of both East and West. Jack offers private sessions as well as live trainings and distance learning trainings for hypnotherapy certification.