More than anyone else, my Buddhist teachers taught me how to relate to questions and questioning. They taught me the art of inquiry which led to what I now call Therapeutic Inquiry. This kind of inquiry is the most important skill I teach to my clients, as well as to students in the Finding True […]
People have been asking me how I recommend thinking about the threats of Ebola, ISIS, and climate change. As these threats begin to seem more immediate and personal, we tend to feel more afraid. Those of us who are used to having a good life can tend to feel ashamed that we’re afraid. This unfortunate […]
A big part of the transformational process is challenging negative self talk (mean and nasty internal dialogue) again and again to look at and to cut through the roots and causes of self hatred.
I have been struck lately by several clients’ acceptance of negative self talk and judgments – what they describe as self-judgment and self-hatred. Along with this mind state comes the fear of criticism from others, as if it was a fact of nature that they are deserving of just about any negative judgment that comes their way. . . .
Have you ever worked really hard to accomplish a goal and when you did accomplish it you felt a big let down? This kind of disillusionment is very common. Ambitious and dynamic people can have a string of successes, each on as empty as the one before. When this happens it can lead to deep […]
Last year about this time my wife and I saw the movie, Lincoln, directed by Steven Spielberg. November 19 is the 151st anniversary of the Gettysburg Address (1863). Watching this excellent portrayal, I was struck by the enormous sacrifice millions of people made for the sake of freedom and human dignity, all mixed in with […]
One of my favorite quotes from myself (eye roll!) is, “We think we live in the world, but we live in our minds.” Another (double eye roll!) is, “Once you realize your innocence, you can accomplish anything.” I am surprised when people don’t have a clue about what I am saying with these statements. (jaw […]
I am happy to present this insightful article by Michele Rosenthal, founder of HealMyPTSD. Michele is a trauma/PTSD survivor who now does healing coaching for people suffering from PTSD. We are trading blog posts. Look for my entry, Insights and Strategies for Dealing with PTSD and Profound Challenges, at her HealMyPTSD blog site. Enjoy Michele’s […]
My clients often look at me with a sense of despair and express the belief that their past is determining their future. Well, according to George, if you’re not learning from your past experience, you’re right!
But what is really going on? What is the most important thing to learn from our past experience, and what should be discarded? Surely we need to retain all manner of common sense things about the world, like, ” look both ways before you cross the street.”
What can we do when we feel stuck? I am amazed at how easy it is for me to forget that my mind is creating my “stuckness” not the world. My mind is very good at pointing the finger at the world however — very good at not being noticed as the culprit. And even […]
I didn’t! Mother’s Day has always been a time to appreciate and show gratitude to My mother, to My wife as mother, or to any mother I might see that day, saying, “Happy Mother’s Day!” bringing a smile to their face. A wonderful day of candy, roses and brunch! Today, two days after Mother’s Day, […]