Distress, worry . . . irrelevant!? Most people are interested and puzzled by this proposition – some angered! How can I not be worried or distressed about being unemployed, sick, or because of a significant loss? I find in working with clients that the main causes of confusion about the needlessness of distress relate to 4 […]
Anger comes from a creeping sense that we are small and in some way lacking. We’re usually unconscious of this sense of smallness, but it makes us cling to what I call “lower self qualities.” If we are to let go of these troublesome qualities, we need to be clear about what they are. Instead […]
More than anyone else, my Buddhist teachers taught me how to relate to questions and questioning. They taught me the art of inquiry which led to what I now call Therapeutic Inquiry. This kind of inquiry is the most important skill I teach to my clients, as well as to students in the Finding True […]
For a long time I’ve wanted to write my own story of Jack Elias. Because although he’s a master hypnotherapist and a brilliant, boisterous teacher, his greatest accomplishments are hidden. He keeps these personal wins to himself. And I guess this is as it should be. But I often wish, as students and clients come and go from Jack’s […]
At the end of this post you’ll have learned three science-backed ways to beat stress – methods that will bring a profound relaxation into your days, even if you’re a person who must make many daily decisions. By way of introducing these techniques, you’ll find it useful to know what scientists have discovered about how […]
A big part of the transformational process is challenging negative self talk (mean and nasty internal dialogue) again and again to look at and to cut through the roots and causes of self hatred.
I have been struck lately by several clients’ acceptance of negative self talk and judgments – what they describe as self-judgment and self-hatred. Along with this mind state comes the fear of criticism from others, as if it was a fact of nature that they are deserving of just about any negative judgment that comes their way. . . .
Have you ever worked really hard to accomplish a goal and when you did accomplish it you felt a big let down? This kind of disillusionment is very common. Ambitious and dynamic people can have a string of successes, each on as empty as the one before. When this happens it can lead to deep […]
This is the 2nd post in a series I’m calling, ‘Everything That Distresses You is Irrelevant.’ In this series we’re examining the 4 main issues that could be causing you needless distress: Confusion about Desire vs. Attachment Limited Self Concepts Unrecognized Nature of Fear-based Thinking Confusion about Cause and Effect You can also take a […]
If you want to make yourself miserable, here’s the quickest way to do it: get worried about what other people think of you. Just by turning our attention outside, we can begin to imagine that others are judging us harshly. In this way, we create a kind of prison in our own mind. We keep ourselves […]
My primary experience as a teacher has long been in the field of hypnotherapy training. Hypnotherapy is often considered a somewhat esoteric field, but it is one that is quickly gaining more exposure as a credible, and often preferred, means field of therapeutic work. Students often come to my Finding True Magic course in Transpersonal Hypnotherapy/NLP thinking […]