It’s no secret that our personal associations with the holidays can bring us sorrow as well as joy. Extremes of happiness and sadness may have good cause. In my case, wonderful memories of warm celebrations filled with great food, gifts, and rowdy cousins to play with, are tempered by the memory of my 20th year: after […]
I’ve often heard people say that we eat mindlessly. This isn’t quite accurate, though. Actually, while we eat, we spend most of our time daydreaming. This daydreaming is a form of hypnosis. Under hypnosis you can become so focused on the contents of your mind that you lose awareness of the external environment. You can […]
My most important insights about applying mindfulness to work are grounded in an experience I had as head of the kitchen during a sesshin at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center in 1971. Since it was a week-long sesshin – all day sitting, every day – you might imagine there was a serene atmosphere about the place. Well, […]
People have been asking me how I recommend thinking about the threats of Ebola, ISIS, and climate change. As these threats begin to seem more immediate and personal, we tend to feel more afraid. Those of us who are used to having a good life can tend to feel ashamed that we’re afraid. This unfortunate […]
It seems like everybody is practicing mindfulness these days. Mindfulness is taking off! It’s showing up in corporate boardrooms, college classrooms, hospice care, and locker rooms. This is a wonderful development because, practiced correctly, mindfulness holds tremendous benefits for us as individuals, for our family and co-workers, and for our communities. There is some confusion, […]
Like so many others last week, I was shocked and saddened, and also drawn into deep contemplation, on hearing that the beloved actor, comedian and social activist, Robin Williams, had taken his own life. As a hypnotherapist who has worked with many people suffering from depression, it reminded me of a shocking, and critical, teaching […]
Not long ago someone was asking me about my work, and I mentioned my book, Finding True Magic. The subtitle is a long one (Transpersonal Hypnosis & Hypnotherapy/NLP) so I didn’t mention it. We were just having a casual conversation, so I assumed I didn’t need to go into detail. But my new friend asked, “What’s […]
Just recently I’ve been reading some people’s opinions about the Virtual Gastric Band approach to weight loss. And I’m happy to see that a lot of people are getting great results with hypnosis for weight loss, using the virtual gastric band app.
I did notice, though, that several reviewers of the virtual gastric band suggested that hypnosis and hypnotherapy are only useful as a supportive tool for other therapies. These writers are under the impression that hypnosis and hypnotherapy don’t address the root cause of the problem of being overweight. This isn’t the case! So I’d like to clarify a few points here.
Through our attempts at self-improvement, it is definitely possible to create gaps in our mind-trances, and through these gaps we can experience the happiness of our innate purity. But as long as we identify these experiences of beauty and openness as the product of the mind, as the product of our own efforts, we will miss the fullest appreciation of ourselves and our lives.
We really don’t need self-improvement. Our happiness is assured, if we’re willing to learn (and practice) true self-love and self-appreciation.
When I’m working to help a couple communicate better, it may surprise you to hear that I don’t employ the latest tricks to get men to understand women better, or vice versa. Improving relationship communication is actually much simpler than that — if the hypnotherapist’s approach is transpersonal in nature.