Like so many others last week, I was shocked and saddened, and also drawn into deep contemplation, on hearing that the beloved actor, comedian and social activist, Robin Williams, had taken his own life. As a hypnotherapist who has worked with many people suffering from depression, it reminded me of a shocking, and critical, teaching […]
Not long ago someone was asking me about my work, and I mentioned my book, Finding True Magic. The subtitle is a long one (Transpersonal Hypnosis & Hypnotherapy/NLP) so I didn’t mention it. We were just having a casual conversation, so I assumed I didn’t need to go into detail. But my new friend asked, “What’s […]
Just recently I’ve been reading some people’s opinions about the Virtual Gastric Band approach to weight loss. And I’m happy to see that a lot of people are getting great results with hypnosis for weight loss, using the virtual gastric band app.
I did notice, though, that several reviewers of the virtual gastric band suggested that hypnosis and hypnotherapy are only useful as a supportive tool for other therapies. These writers are under the impression that hypnosis and hypnotherapy don’t address the root cause of the problem of being overweight. This isn’t the case! So I’d like to clarify a few points here.
Through our attempts at self-improvement, it is definitely possible to create gaps in our mind-trances, and through these gaps we can experience the happiness of our innate purity. But as long as we identify these experiences of beauty and openness as the product of the mind, as the product of our own efforts, we will miss the fullest appreciation of ourselves and our lives.
We really don’t need self-improvement. Our happiness is assured, if we’re willing to learn (and practice) true self-love and self-appreciation.
When I’m working to help a couple communicate better, it may surprise you to hear that I don’t employ the latest tricks to get men to understand women better, or vice versa. Improving relationship communication is actually much simpler than that — if the hypnotherapist’s approach is transpersonal in nature.
I once received an emergency call to help someone who was suicidal. I agreed to see him right away, and as soon as he arrived he began listing all of the things that were wrong with him (thought and feelings) and that made him want to kill himself. . . .
What would it look like to give love without expecting anything in return? Isn’t that only for saints, or monks . . . or worse, won’t it mean submitting and becoming a doormat? Not at all. Giving unconditional love arises from a sense of your own unconditional OK-ness. It may be necessary to do some work to reacquaint yourself with your basic goodness, of course. But once you have reconnected with your self-worth, you’re able to be generous with your partner and with yourself.
Getting stuck in anxious energy and busyness, but getting nowhere. Does this sound familiar? I call it “running in place,” and it’s a sure sign that I’ve stopped giving myself love and compassion. When you notice yourself doing this, don’t think, “I have to stop this.” Instead, think, “Oh! I’m running-in-place! I must be denying myself love and compassion.”
Then if you like, you can put your hand to your heart as you do in the Hands Over Heart Technique I mentioned in this earlier post. . . .
In the last post, I mentioned making the conscious effort to soften your heart with patience and kindness (and therefore courage). Were you surprised to see “courage” in there?
Did it surprise you to think that softening your heart, consciously becoming more patient and kind through consistent effort, takes courage?
If it did surprise you, please consider that it is an act of courage when you resist the fearful habitual thought patterns that keep you stuck, or anxiously running-in-place inside yourself, unable to move forward.
It is possible to make major shifts — to easily make true and lasting positive change in any area of your life — when you call on the courage to be kind.
I believe that the start of a new year is a great time to shake things up a little.
So . . . here’s a radical three-part notion:
1. When you soften your heart with patience and kindness (and therefore courage), positive thoughts are able to make a greater impact on your mind.
2. When you strengthen your positive thoughts, it automatically becomes much easier to change your perspective and make things work.
3. Therefore, the most powerful thing you can do to create a positive mind-state — the state from which flows all creativity, health and wellbeing, as well as worldly success — is to allow your heart to soften.
How do you soften up? You’re really going to enjoy this . . .